Mannerism in Islam
To promote peace and harmony in a society and within the family it is necessary to have and practice proper manners. As part of Submission to God, Muslims are commanded to behave in a way that encourages good and forbids evil.
“It is not righteousness that you turn your faces towards east or west; but it is righteousness- to believe in God and the Last Day, and the Angels, and the Book, and the Messengers; to spend of your substance, out of love for Him, for your kin, for orphans, for the needy, for the wayfarer, for those who ask, and for the ransom of slaves; to be steadfast in prayer, and practice regular charity; to fulfil the contracts which you have made; and to be firm and patient, in pain (or suffering) and adversity, and throughout all periods of panic. Such are the true believers, the God fearing.” [Quran 2:177]
“Let not those among you who are endued with grace and amplitude of means resolve by oath against helping their kinsmen, those in want, and those who have left their homes in God’s cause: let them forgive and overlook, do you not wish that God should forgive you? For God is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.” [Quran 24:22]
“Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty: that will make for greater purity for them: And God is well acquainted with all that they do. And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what (ordinarily) appear thereof…” [Quran 24:30-31]
“Do not avert your face from people out of haughtiness and do not walk with pride on earth: for, behold, God does not love arrogant and boastful people.” [Quran 31:18]
“Never will you attain righteousness unless you give of that which you love, and whatever you give God is aware of it.” [Quran 3:92]
“… for those who spend (freely), whether in prosperity, or in adversity; who restrain anger, and forgive (all) men;- for God loves those who do good;” [Quran 3:134]
Chapter 49 of the Quran, Al-Hujurat, (also known as the chapter of Manners) addresses issues that arise among family members and community at large due to misunderstandings and wrong assumptions made by people. If followed properly, these advises will reduce, if not eliminate, many conflicts between individuals. “If two parties of believers fight against each other, make peace between them: but if one of them transgresses against the other, then fight against the one that transgresses until it complies with the command of God; then if it complies then make peace between them with justice and equity: for God loves those who are just.”
“Surely, all believers are brothers. So make peace between your brothers; and fear God, so that you may receive Mercy.”
“O you who believe! Let not some men among you laugh at others: It may be that the latter are better than the former: Nor should some women laugh at others: It may be that the latter are better than the former: Nor defame nor be sarcastic to each other, nor call each other by (offensive) nicknames: How bad it is to earn an evil reputation after accepting the faith! And those who do not repent are evil-doers.”
“O you who believe! Avoid much suspicion: for suspicion in some cases is a sin: And do not spy on each other and do not backbite. Would any of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? No, you would hate it. Fear God. For God is ever forgiving and most merciful.” [Quran 49:9-12]